With graduation inching ever closer, the thought of your future, both career and relationship wise, has to be in your thoughts.Finding your partner in college is fun and exciting, along with being able to see each other grow as people. Being there for that journey brings anyone closer together, and really shows you what the future holds between the two of you.
That is until you near graduation and realize that you both want to live in different cities, whether by choice or because of where the job lies. For example, if you want to pursue journalism the natural choice is New York or L.A., and if your partner wants to argriculture then the choice would be farmland in the Mid-west or farther south.
What then?
How do you decide who sacrifices their dream? Do you decide to try long-distance dating so you can both do what you want?
Sacrificing should never be an option, because making one person give up their dreams means there's no equality in the relationship. There has to be equality between both people, because having your partner sacrifice what they want will lead to resentment in the future.
There will always be that 'what if I had done this?' There has to be a happy medium between finding a way to maintain your relationship and having the career you've always dreamed of.
For some people, they don't mind following their partner, and all will be fine. But for most having a career is very important. I could be wrong, but to me sacrificing my job is not an option. I have worked so hard and so long to achieve my career goals that I won't give it up.
What do you think? Are you so invested in your relationship that you are willing to give up your career?
The process of deciding your future is hard enough without worrying about how you can maintain your career and your relationship.
Supporting each other is a part of the relationship that proves your committment. Being able to let your significant other have the career he or she dreams of shows just how much you want them to succeed. At the same time, you feel guilty because underneath all the fluff and support, you want them with you.
So what do you do? How do couples handle this situation?
Do you graduate with or without them?
1 comment:
For some though, their true love may be more important than that career that you could possibly find anywhere. For me, my boyfriend already attends a different school 2 hours away, so we are used to the long distance relationship; however, once we both graduate I think both of us will have to make a sacrifice to live with one another.
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